30.11 – We were having a nice quiet meditation evening. E and Tanel were with me, Taki and Villu. We were just talking and having fun. All of the sudden, my phone rings. I look on the screen and my mother is calling me. I picked up and she says: “I got a letter”. I’m like – oh great, another court letter, saying I need to pay my depts. Well... It wasn’t! She said, it’s from the ARMY! My heart skipped at least three beats! She opened the letter and read to me, that I have been summoned. I need to be in Rakvere on the 13th of January (which “luckily” is Friday the 13th") at 8:30AM!!! Oh my god... That was the LAST thing I was expecting! I am 23 and I was hoping that they forgot about me or someone spied on my and saw, that I’m not army material, but noooo. Those basterds were just waiting, until I graduate. Ugh! My whole evening was ruined! Fuck fuck fuck!
3.12 - On that Saturday I was having a bad day. E was at my place and it was boring as all hell. I was watching TV and he was sitting by the computer, listening to the music with headphones. Yes, "Friends" were on, but it was still not what I was expecting of a Saturday night with my special someone. So I just layed there quietly, saying nothing, occasionally visiting the balcony for a smoke.
I also was a bit fed up with him too, because he was at my place most of the time. I needed space, I couldn't breathe (nor watch my TV shows, because he didn't like those and then he'd be bored).
At one point (about ten o'clock in the evening) he asked me, if I wanted him to go home. I was silent for a bit. Then I asked him, if he'd be very upset with me if I'd answer "Yes". "No" he replied. After a pause, that seemed like a lifetime, I said: "Then could you please go home?". He took his stuff and left, I didn't even get a Good-Bye kiss or a hug, nothing. Seemed like he was VERY upset, even though a moment ago, he said he wouldn't be.
And you know what? After he left, I was relieved! I jumped in my bed, turned on "Dexter" and just enjoyed the darkness.
4.12 - I noticed that E had deleted "Has partner" sign from his profile in Gayromeo. I wrote to him, that did you really get THAT upset with me? "Apparently" was all he replied.
I really wanted to talk to Tanel that day, but he said, that he didn’t have any free time before the movie night, so we agreed, that he would come to my place after work the next day.
In the evening it was Mr L's turn to show us a movie and his choice was "Kramer vs Kramer". I hadn't seen that movie before and I quite liked it. Of course I had a different opinion, than the others, when we discussed the movie after it was over. I said that there is NO excuse for leaving a child and the court should've never given the child back to Meryl Streep.
5.12 – All I wanted to do was talk to Tanel about E. That what should I do. Should I dump him or should I get back together with him?
Laura came to our place too, so that made it that much harder to open my mouth and talk about something that bothers me.
But after an hour or two in the living room, I finally opened my mouth and talked about my problem. As usual, the answer was that I’m doing something wrong. That we ruined it all, by spending too much time together right from the start. That all this time together didn’t give me any chance to miss him. He was always around.
The good thing is that I opened my mouth and talked about what was bothering me. Which is not that easy, when I know I’m doing something wrong!
We ended up spending a very fun evening together. I loved it! I just drank a little too much coffee! xD
8.12 - I went back to Tapa, because a relative of mine had passed away and there was a funeral. At first we were in a Russian church. There was an open casket and I saw the dead body. It was so weird, seeing all those people crying. It was soooo f'ing uncomfortable for me, because all I wanted to do, was laugh. Crying people make me VERY uncomfortable and laughing is like a defense reflex or something like that. So there I was, standing just a few feet away from the body, crying people all around me and I kept repeating to myself (in my head): "Don't laugh, don't laugh, don't laugh, dead puppies, dead puppies, dead puppies!" And what made it all worse - in the Russian church they don't have any chairs and we all had to stand up for the whole thing. Oh, that was a killer for my legs. I HATE standing in one place for too long.
After the ceremony was over, we said our last Good-byes. Some kissed deceased, some just gave a gentle stroke. I was one of those, who did the last one. I said my good-bye to the daughter of my (deceased) grandmother’s sister by gently stroking her hand. Gosh, that was sooo cold.
I remember when my father passed, I kissed him on the forehead, but I don't remember it being THAT cold (Yeah, that was 13 years ago and my memories COULD be letting me down, but still...).
After that we went to the cemetery to bury the body.
In American movies it is so short - they have a few words and they leave, the workers will do everything for them. But not here! Here firstly one of the relatives gave a very beautiful speech (that was my fifth funeral and the first time anyone's ever given a speech) and then the put the casket in the ground. After that everyone throws sand on the casket three times (by hand) and then we all wait until the workers have completed their job, so we could decorate the grave by putting flowers and wreaths on it. And after that comes the funeral banquet. All of this was over by three o'clock (it started at 11AM). Then I went to my grandmothers for a little chat and later came back to Tallinn with a train.
9.12 - Was an ordinary party day at our place. I had a few drinks and after that we went to X-Bar, where I met up with my friend Sven and after that we went to G-Point, where we met another acquaintance of ours. Had a few more drinks and when we started to leave, I noticed someone had stolen my wallet from my coat. Luckily there wasn’t much money in it, but what I feel sad about the most is that grandmother gave me that wallet. Fuck all those documents that were in there, I can get them again, but the wallet... Nothing can replace that!
We didn’t go home. Me and Sven went to the acquaintances place, for a drink. After half an hour Sven called himself a cab and left, I stayed there.
I stayed in the arms of a cute man. We didn’t have sex or anything, I just wanted to feel close to someone. That’s all.
10.12 – Me and my friends went to see “New Year’s Eve”. I was VERY pleased with the movie. The plan was to go and see it in Coca Cola Plaza, but when we got there, all the good seats had been taken. So we went to Solaris and we ended up in the biggest room. I had been there once before. I was there on my first date with Mr L, we went to see “Loose Cannons”. If I’d known, that the movie was going to be shown there, I would’ve skipped it and gone to see it on another day.
12.12 – E came to my place, to pick up the shirt he left behind. We had a small chat, about nothing special. About how life has gone on, how he got a new job and how I’m still doing nothing with my life. We didn’t touch the subject “us”, but I think he gets that I’m not in love with him. I did say that whenever he’s feeling lonely on a Friday night and wants to party, then he is welcome to party with us. I just hope that he got, that it was a friendly invitation, nothing else. But I did get a Good-Bye hug, when he left. :)
14.12 – It was a busy day at work. Our project manager noticed that there were some strange numbers in the interviews, so I had to listen to some interviews, to check everything. She told me to call the interviewer, who had made those. She said it to me three times and so I did. At first the interviewer didn’t pick up, but later she called back and I explained, that there were some strange numbers and she was quite surprised, because she didn’t remember entering numbers as big as the project manager said. My point is – all the project manager told me, was to call the interviewer and I did!
15.12 – I got a wakeup call of a lifetime! The project manager called me and practically screamed at me: “Where is the feedback!” I was like WTF? What feedback? I called the interviewer, just like she asked me to. But she didn’t ask me for a feedback. “Don’t you have any brain at all?” was her reaction to me. For fucks sake, I did EXACTLY what she asked me, but my mistake was that I didn’t think WHY she asked me to call the interviewer. I didn’t have the time to stop and think. Fuck her! I did as I was told and that’s all. I’ve been working here for almost 4 years. She’s supposed to know, what I’m like and what my flaws are.
Yes, NOW I understand that I SHOULD’VE given her feedback, but at that point I didn’t have the time to stop and think. And I didn’t deserve that screaming wakeup call! But hey, not all of us know how to communicate (I should know, I’m one of them).
The day turned out to be good after all. We had our company Christmas event or something like that. We went to a place called Raudsilla, to have our “party” there. I don’t know how to explain what kind of a place it was, but if anyone ever has a chance to throw a party there, then that person won’t be disappointed!
While being there, we also had a little game. They have us a map of the place and we had to go through four points, where we had to do different tasks.
In the third point, the task was to spin the hula hoop around the waist. The project managers group was before our group and that girl spun it around pretty long. So I made it my mission to beat her time. I wasn’t gonna rub it in her face later, I just wanted to do it for myself, because I hate her so much and ONLY for me: It was personal!
So after she was done, I picked up the hula ring and I spun it around and around and around and I when I reached 10 minutes, I stopped, because I knew I had beaten her. The judge said, that she spun it around 3 minutes with some seconds, so you have no idea how happy I was! :D
But the sad thing was, that after all those tasks were done, we found out, that no one gets any points. They just put all of us in a bowl and just picked from there. Luckily our group was the first one to get picked.
Our former Supervisor was also there with her little baby. Oh god, how I’ve missed her. She was the Izzie Stevens of our office (meaning – the heart and soul of this place) and she still is heavily missed!
After we got back to Tallinn, most of us went back to the office, to continue the party. I just went there for a moment and then I left. My boss called me to confirm, is everything okay. He knows that I love parties and last year I was quite a party animal. I just said, that I’m not in a mood to party and that was it.
16.12 – This Friday party was held at Mikk’s place in the center of the city. We got together, drank and played a very fun game, that Laura had brought – Jungle speed. I get quite competitive, while playing. I don’t like loosing that much, but if I do, I survive. I’m not a sore looser, I just LOVE winning! :D
After that everyone went home. I didn’t want to go yet, so I escorted Laura to her home. On the road we talked A LOT (mostly about me) and I REALLY hope she doesn’t hate me now, because most of the things I say when I’m drunk, is what is actually bullshit in other peoples opinion. Because everything I say or feel is wrong, they always tell me. I’m doing everything always wrong. And when they explain it to me, then I understand why it’s wrong. But while I’m doing/saying, whatever I’m doing/saying, then at that moment I don’t think it’s wrong.
And what’s worse – I love to talk when I’m drunk. Talk, discuss about my problems, but when I get answers – it’s highly unlikely I will remember them by morning! And talking about my problems while I’m sober – that’s just out of the question! ;)
That’s why it’s just better to keep my mouth shut and say nothing. But when I’m drunk, it’s hard to keep it shut. :D I’m gonna have to practice that a little more.
After I escorted her home, I checked out X-Bar, which was quite empty. That was the first time in a very very long time, that I went out all on my own.
I left and went to G-Point. There were a lot of people and a few friends too, with whom I danced and talked. There was one black guy too.
Somehow we ended up talking a lot. At one point I kissed him. “It was the first time ever I’ve kissed a black guy.” I said to him. And it was true. I had only ONCE just talked to a black guy before and this was the first time I had kissed one. There aren’t so many black people in Estonia and I also haven’t traveled much, that’s why I had no experience. But now I do. :) At least with the kissing part.
After the party was over, we went to my place to continue the chat.
After talking about two hours, he called cab and went away and I went to sleep, because it was already 9AM.
17.12 – In the evening I went to Tapa with a train and there by bus I went to my mother’s place. I took them a bunch of movies. We just talked and watched TV. Nothing special.
18.12 – The reason why I went back home, was that day was my Grandmothers 80th Birthday party. We had it in our mother’s sister’s house in Tapa. Everyone was quite worried, that my mother is going to ruin it all. My cousin called me during the day, to confirm, that my mother is sober (apparently exactly 10 years ago, my mother went to grandmothers birthday while being totally wasted. Luckily I don’t remember anything about that day). I calmed her down, by saying that everything is okay and under control.
We arrived to the sister’s house quite early, so we could help with the decorations and setting the table.
Everything went without a hitch. All was well, the food was perfect (as usual, my mother’s sister studied to be a cook and her food is always sooo delicious), the people were happy and grandmother was exactly by my side. I just love her! :)
They did make just one tiny mistake! In my opinion the seating arrangement was a bit off. They put my grandmother on one side of the table and all her (elderly) friends in the other side. But my grandmothers hearing isn’t as good as it used to be, that’s why she was silent most of the evening.
Usually when we have the birthday party at her place, then she’s right in the middle and she’s very chatty and laughing and stuff. Not this time. But everything else was okay. We even got to make a picture where all of us were on – grandmother, me, my mother and brother and her sister with her daughter. I don’t remember us having a photo like that before.
Just like I said to my cousin on the phone – everything is going to be okay, just as it was.
After the party I came back to Tallinn. I thought that there was going to be no movie night, but later when Taki came back home, he told me that there WAS a movie night. He showed a movie called “Pay It Forward”. I was soooooo upset! Why didn’t anyone tell me?
Oh, right! I was the one who told Taki, that I’m going to be away for the weekend and not to contact me. BUT! In my defense – on the 4th of December, when we had our last movie night, I understood that that was the last movie night this year. And when I said, that I’m going to be away for the weekend and not to contact me, I meant meditation nights, not movie nights. It’s not his fault, that he can’t read minds. I was just sad and disappointed.
I love movie nights. They are mostly about hanging out with friends and doing something together. But they are also great, because in a way, we are all opening up to each other, showing different sides of ourselves.
But sometimes it can also be a disappointment. For example when someone is not showing a movie from their own collection, but just thought it might be a cool movie, without even seeing it once or someone, who wants to see someone else and then shows a movie they haven't seen, just to bring that someone that much closer to him.
Of course I’m talking about myself. In January/February (2011) I wanted to see Mr L again and I chose the movie "The Shadow Writer". I had never seen that movie, but Mr L gave it to me for Christmas.
One night we were both watching "European Movie Awards Gala 2010" and that was the only movie I was routing for the whole evening, because it had Kim Cattrall in it. I'm not much of an European movies type of a person. I love American movies more. So thanks to Kim I was routing to that movie the whole evening. And he found that DVD somewhere and gave it to me for Christmas. That's why I showed it. So he'd come...
But after I showed the movie I realized, that IF I would have seen that movie earlier, I wouldn't have showed it. Because it was MY night and I was ready to show a part of me and I... I didn't...
Yeah, others loved/liked that movie and they were pleased... But I wasn't... Yeah, he was here, but I didn't open up. I didn't show anything of myself, other than I missed him.
But yeah... Movie nights are very important for me!
21.12 – Our boss took us to a fancy restaurant, to celebrate Christmas. The restaurant was very very fancy and I felt like a fish out of water in there.
The sad thing about restaurants like these, is that if you go in there hungry, you’re gonna leave hungry. :D
Yeah, the food was VERY delicious, but the amounts were... Puny!
22.12 – The Tallinn2011 project was having their final event that evening. I had written about wanting to go there in our Facebook group, but no one showed any interest in going. In final desperation I wrote to Mr L, inviting him with me. It was a stupid mistake, I know! But the only reason I did that was because I didn’t want to go alone and I know he likes these cultural things.
He didn’t answer! No surprise there.
So I decided to go alone! And boy am I pleased with my decision!
The event was called “60 seconds”. 60 directors around the world, each made one movie, that was 60 seconds long. It was shown on a big screen, outside in the pier. Yes, my legs died, while standing in one place for more than an hour, but the movies were so different and some of them so weird and strange, that I didn’t have time to stop and think about my dead legs. I just stood there, watching the big screen and I loved the experience! After all the movies were shown, they light the projector on fire and destroyed all the movies. That was the main idea of the event: to show the movies once and then destroy them all.
I was very pleased with myself. And from now on, that’s exactly what I’m gonna do! I’m not going to write in our group, that I want to go and see some events, just to see that no one writes me back or shows any sign that they want to join me. I’m just gonna skip that and start doing things all on my own. Who knows – may-be because of that, one day I’ll have the guts to just start talking to strangers? :D
Who knows! ;)
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